I’m talking about patterns throughout 2024. Previously I answered the question, “Is Narcissism Evil?” Patterns of domination, cancellation and isolation are evidence that it is. I’d like to dig deeper. Let’s go past behavior and look at what motivates people to participate in narcissistic evil.

I’m disabled and use a wheelchair. In addition to my wheelchair, I have a scooter for walking the dog. My grandchildren’s favorite activity is driving the scooter alongside me as together, we whiz up and down the road in front of my house. It’s a little like driving go-carts, and the grandkids are still young enough to think driving an old lady scooter is fun

In order for there to be evil, you must believe in morality—in effect, that there is such a thing as right or wrong. For survivors of childhood trauma, we know this to be true in the core of our being. We know we have have been “sinned against” because we feel the affects of it; the outrage, the suffering, the sorrow and grief. None of those things would be present had we not been wronged, and you cannot be wronged without moral injury. It is the evidence that evil is at work.

Warning: The danger in talking about the childhood wounds of a narcissist to survivors of their abuse is that the guilt they have used to manipulate us with will come roaring back. Do not fall for it. Narcissists use pity to gain control and we must not give credence to such feelings. Thoughts like “They are wounded and if I can show them love, they will finally come around,” are nothing but a lie. Read on to find out why.

Trauma Patterns

Happy New Year everybody! Thank you to all my subscribers and a special thanks for the encouragement and questions I’ve received from you this past year. The theme for defy trauma embrace joy 2024 is PATTERNS. Trauma patterns affect survivors in many profound ways. Cultivated in early childhood, these patterns live in the deepest places of the heart, come out automatically in our thoughts, drive negative emotions and fuel self-defeating behavior. When I live out past patterns in the present, they not only ruin my life and the lives of those around me, I also pass them down to the next generation. How do we interrupt the pattern? That’s what I’m going to be talking about for the next year.